[a moment] of privacy
[THIS POST WILL GET INAPPROPRIATE depending on your definition of inappropriate. If sex talk isn't your thing, then move on.]
[moment 88]
Of course, the first thing they tell my child is that everything they talk about is completely private and won't be shared with anyone or even put in their chart if they don't want it to. And, of course, the first thing my child does when we get in the car to drive home is talk about all the things they discussed.
They talked about drugs and alcohol and sex and menstruation and all the things. As in, all the things I talk with my kids about.
So I did what probably no other parent does and asked Onyx what kind of sex we're supposed to talk about? Lesbian sex? Gay sex? Porn? Heterosexual sex? Masturbation? There are any combination of sexes and genders and sexualities and body parts and holes we can talk about. Somehow a baguette slipped itself into the conversation. That may have been my fault. And somehow the phrase "remember the box of stuff from people's butts?" was uttered. Probably by me. And all this before we reached the highway.
By the way - if you watch medical dramas with your teens, they will learn all sorts of things about unexpected things in people's butts and STDs and drugs and all sorts of stuff. None of this was new information for Onyx, so don't get your panties in a bunch. The kid has been watching medical shows and shows with autopsies and real life ER type shows for ages.
So I did what probably no other parent does and asked Onyx what kind of sex we're supposed to talk about? Lesbian sex? Gay sex? Porn? Heterosexual sex? Masturbation? There are any combination of sexes and genders and sexualities and body parts and holes we can talk about. Somehow a baguette slipped itself into the conversation. That may have been my fault. And somehow the phrase "remember the box of stuff from people's butts?" was uttered. Probably by me. And all this before we reached the highway.
By the way - if you watch medical dramas with your teens, they will learn all sorts of things about unexpected things in people's butts and STDs and drugs and all sorts of stuff. None of this was new information for Onyx, so don't get your panties in a bunch. The kid has been watching medical shows and shows with autopsies and real life ER type shows for ages.
Then the conversation moved on to drugs and alcohol and how they want to get drunk on their twenty-first birthday...if their meds allow it.
People ask me why I talk about all these things with young teens. I don't. I talk with them about these things before they're teens. Before they can get pregnant or are in a position to get someone pregnant. Before they're offered drugs or alcohol. When I can give them a firm foundation that any physical contact with another person requires consent from that person. When they can learn the difference between coercion and consent. When I have enough time to make sure they know that when I say they can talk to me about anything I mean it and when I say they can call me to pick them up and help them out of a situation, I mean that, too.
People ask me why I talk about all these things with young teens. I don't. I talk with them about these things before they're teens. Before they can get pregnant or are in a position to get someone pregnant. Before they're offered drugs or alcohol. When I can give them a firm foundation that any physical contact with another person requires consent from that person. When they can learn the difference between coercion and consent. When I have enough time to make sure they know that when I say they can talk to me about anything I mean it and when I say they can call me to pick them up and help them out of a situation, I mean that, too.
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